Hi, My name is Misty and I’m a survivor of a Narcissistic Mother among other things.

I’m No Contact and have been since May 14th, 2010 when she physically assaulted me, broke my US cell phone and basically left me stranded more than 50 miles away from the airport with my son (her only grandchild) and 4000 miles from my home. This was 24 hours after I told her that we simply did not have spare cash for her and she would have to wait until after school to start for me to find a job and buy her wedding set from her.

I’ve spent my life believing that I’m less and I’m a failure and all she ever wanted was for me to succeed in life. What she didn’t tell me was that my success had to be on her terms.

If you disagreed with her opinions, you were bad mouthed behind your back and if she needed you for something, it was sunshine up your ass until your hair glowed.

She isolated me from the rest of the family and told me how lower class they were and I wasn’t to be like them at all, ever.

She told me that I had never told her about the sexual abuse because I probably enjoyed it, but I have copies of MSN convos she had with my DH just a year ago where she blamed herself and it was all her fault and oh my, how horrible she felt about letting me down as a mother.

When I told her that we were moving to Europe because it was the only option left to us in light of the failing US economy, she screamed that I was just moving over here to sit on my ass and do nothing. Never mind that DH had been without a job for 3 years and I was making $12 an hour. I was told that by bob, SHE had survived as a single parent making a lot less than I did and I was just lazy.

She set me up for failure. She never taught me how to run a household, budget, or even be a girl. Any activity I did was boring or inconvenient. Always an excuse to not attend. She threatened to not attend my HS graduation because I “didn’t really accomplish that much.” Despite the fact that she was an 8th grade dropout.

She told me my senior year that she’d never pay a dime for me to go to college, but 20 years later, it was all, “Oh I would have paid, but you chose to move out.” Never mind that when I turned 18, she told me she thought it would be better if I moved out.

Since she hated being a housewife for 2 years, anyone that is a housewife is lazy or ‘ignoring their potential’. Since SHE thinks public transportation is only for trash, if you use it and enjoy it, you’re lower class.

The kicker is, when all this went down, I called my step-dad. They’ve been divorced now for about 5 years, but like that stops her from sucking his savings dry. I told him that we had gotten into it, and she had assaulted me and would he please some take me to a hotel so I could get to the airport the next day.

He didn’t want to get involved and refused to answer anymore of my phone calls. Then he had the nerve to get angry with me after I told him we were through.

I’m not perfect, but I have worth. And for those members of my family that think I’ve run away from my responsibilities to another country, get a life. The only thing I left behind in the US was a woman who doesn’t and will never deserve the title of ‘Mother’ And oh, by the way, she talks plenty of shit about you, too. Mostly about how much she did for you and you’ve yet to repay the favor.

Actually, now that I think about it, she says that about most of her nieces and nephews. Except for the ones she calls trash, or fake.